You’ve chosen your site(s) and have met some people based on your profile!! Now you’re getting ready to meet them and have some conversation. I think that when meeting someone online dating, it’s important to get a feel as to who this person is before getting together!!
This is the importance of setting up your messenger service ahead of time. Establish some dialogues with your instant messenger account or email. Ask the questions you want answered and ask them in your own way. Get some sense of their interests. Don’t just believe what you’ve read. Ask them to discuss themselves and listen to how interested online dating they are in these interests. Get a feel for their personality. This contact will per-introduce you to them before you meet them! You’ll already know quite a bit about them! Visit their Face book page just before you agree to meet them! Look at other people they have as friends and you’ll see them in their own environments. Don’t arrange the date online!! When you’re ready to go have a telephone conversation as your final screening.
I know this phone call is finally stepping out from your veil of secrecy but you have to. You need to hear their voice as it tells a lot about their personality! If there boring on the phone, they’re boring!! All there is to it. Of course, you’ve already seen their picture and visited their Facebook page so you know what they look like. Hopefully, their looks aren’t a surprise when you finally meet!! You had better not surprise the other person either!! Remember that the only person you’re really kidding if you’re not honest when online dating will be you!!
When going on the first date, be punctual even if it’s not your nature!! Most people can’t stand people to be late especially when meeting for the first time! It tells a lot!! Lack of interest is being shown!! When on the date, stay connected. The only person to concentrate on is sitting across from you!! Don’t talk too much about yourself unless answering a question!! Give the other person a chance to speak!!
If it’s not working don’t prolong the date!! Declare clearly your interest or lack of it!! If there isn’t any, say so gently. Don’t waste time for both of you!! You may feel the person deserves another meeting but if it’s still not there, it’s not there!!
You have to be physically attracted to the person in some way!! Don’t underestimate that!! Chemistry is important especially for the long term!! Don’t be convinced by others!! Your opinion is the only one that counts!! You’ll know!!
Stay positive through the whole process!! Even if it seems that you’re not meeting anyone for you!! Stay with it. You will and you have to keep telling yourself that! There’s lots of great people out there!!